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Dr Deborah Vinall's avatar

So insightful. I especially appreciated this part, as my work centers on belonging:

"insecurity about whether we were important or valued enough to belong with others; to not belong amounts to a threat to one’s life. Our unconscious but powerful solution was to make oneself important by making others inferior, unimportant."

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David E. Roy  Ph.D.'s avatar

Thank you! I've come to the conclusion that shame is the experience of being unacceptable which, given our DNA, means we cannot belong when belonging is our method of survival. It amounts to a death threat. This understanding is what I've built upon the work of Darcia Narvaez, emerita from Notre Dame. See her resource rich website: https://evolvednest.org She is also now on Substack.

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Dr Deborah Vinall's avatar

Brilliant.

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David E. Roy  Ph.D.'s avatar

Thank you very much.

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Carl Selfe's avatar

Let us also consider that war made serf-soldiers of the people and the power of the King ruler was then so strong that it was used to squash dissent among the people. Y’all better mind now! (Tilley)

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Dr. Bronce Rice's avatar

Dr Roy - thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and wisdom on the "state of affairs" in your mind and in perpetuity as it were.

I will be looking for more sage words from your educated mind 🙇‍♂️

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